What I've Been Reading this Week
- Isabelle Lauren's discussion piece on fighting for women and the #me too campaign
- Dissolve by Hey Mrs Robinson - erotica inspired by a masturbation Monday prompt
- Bex Talks Sex an opinion piece on personalities for Submissives - very useful when I was creating my Bad Romance erotic story
- Candy Snatch discusses the dynamics of being dominated
Introducing Nero Black:
A hero of mine who I discovered through #SoSS and who's been entertaining me with his posts and pictures ever since, but this week Twitter has 'shadowbanned' him, which is exactly why we need to keep sharing each other's work
What made you decide to write a sex blog?
~ There was no-one I could talk to about my issues - my ‘issues’ being that my wife’s libido seemed to have dropped to desiring sex once a month, if that, and I didn’t know how to deal with it. I figured ‘talk therapy’ was best but had no-one to confide in. I know women will discuss sex related matters with their BFF’s but guys don’t. They only times guys discuss sex is talking about what virile men we are and how many times we banged some women that night. Hence I use my blog to vent about what’s going on in my head. Stress causes cancer IMO so I don’t want that.
What’s behind the title of your blog or your blogging “name”?
~ Nero is not my real name. I take my privacy seriously because life in the real world is not as benign as it is in the sex blogosphere. And some sex bloggers will tell you it’s not so benign online either, having been harassed when their real identities were discovered. I chose Nero because myth says he fiddled while Rome burned, and that’s how I like to think of myself. I chose it before Jimmy Smitt’s character ‘Nero’ appeared on Sons Of Anarchy, which is how some people thought I chose the name. His character was pretty cool so I’ll accept that ‘origin story’ too.
~ The title ‘Nero Speaks’ is a play on ‘Garbo Speaks’ and truthfully I came up with it quickly when prompted to name my blog when setting it up. My previous blog was called ‘Her Secret Library’ as it included a lot more about the dirty books/stories/erotica my wife was reading online - which prompted me to start blogging in the first place. I couldn’t get my head around my wife reading filthy and extreme genres/stories and yet was not interested in having sex with me IRL.
Describe your blog in a nutshell:
~ The blog really is whatever’s on my mind that I feel like sharing. The important thing for readers to know is that I am a male blogger. I’m not a male writer. The difference: I just say what happened - she took off her clothes and got on all fours so I fucked her doggy style. A male writer says it with more panache: she looked at me seductively as she slowly peeled off her wrap dress and let it fall to the floor. Cat-like she climbed slinkily onto the bed, pausing only to look back at me with a come hither stare. My heart may have melted but my throbbing manhood was as hard as concrete...
Another thing your readers should know (but may have realised from my ‘nutshell’ answer) is that I tend to give long rather than short answers; Ditto for my blog posts!
How long have you been blogging on this theme?
~ I honestly don’t know. ‘Nero Speaks’ started on November 11, 2015 but I found some ‘Her Secret Library’ posts in which date back to June 2013. I know I started that blog waaay before then I copied many texts from the old emails to repost on ‘Nero Speaks’ (backdating them to their original date) but typically, the really good early posts I couldn’t recover.
A tip from Nero: follow your own blog! That way you have the blog emailed to you and if anything happens to your blog you’ve got email copies. In my case ‘Her Secret Library’ got shut down by Wordpress due to pornographic content. It happened without warning and they wouldn’t accept any of my appeals.
What is your favourite type of adult toy?
~ Anything that gets my wife off, making her more amenable to having sex with me. As best I know she doesn’t use toys solo (and I’m pretty sure she doesn’t). Last October we got The Verge which is a vibrating cock ring from We-Vibe. It works great on me, but of course my wife found a way to use it on herself solo, which is how things usually start now if we use it.
If you were sent to a desert island (with no power issues) name the 1 adult toy you’d take with you:
~ I’m a guy so the choices are limited, but The Verge would do just fine. Especially since women can use it.
What’s your current sexuality? At what age did you realise this was the right ‘fit’ for you?
~ I am currently hetrosexual and always have been. When I was 20 I let a man twice my age french kiss me at a gay nightclub. I did it to shock my friends, who thought they were so cool and edgy by going to a gay dance club. And boy it sure worked! It was the early 80s, I wasn’t ‘experimenting’ I was just proving I was willing to go where others wouldn’t. (Like that time you went bungy jumping to prove it didn’t scare you.)
What’s your preference - naked or “dressed up” for sex? If dressed up, how so?
~ I’ll take what I can get but as anyone who’s seen my Instagram account will know, I do prefer dress up. By which I mean she dresses up for my pleasure. Unfortunately I don’t have the physique for ‘dress up’ (men's choices are quite limited IMO). Even more unfortunately (for me) my wife thinks the same, despite dressing sexy when we go out she takes it off as soon as she gets home. Ditto for any underwear or lingerie she has, being of the opinion that she should be ‘enough’ for me and that she shouldn’t have to dress up in order get me hard.
It’s a damn shame because she still has the body for it and would look great in whatever you see me posting on Instagram.
Is there a kink or fantasy you’re yearning to try?
I have a few fantasies I haven’t tried but want to - I’ve been with my wife 25+ years and time is running out! In the past 5 years there have been a few anal experiences but we’ve never quite got it right, possibly because it only ever ‘happens’ spontaneously and anal is probably something you need to plan.
Unfortunately my wife seems to think sex should happen spontaneously and therefore if I was ever to say ‘how about we try anal this weekend?’ the answer would be “Hell No”. My wife keeps her cards close to her chest, never admits what she likes or doesn’t like, cant think she’s ever said ‘that was good, we should do that again’. She never initiates.
One fantasy I have is to tie her to the bed and go to town on her with her vibrators (forced orgasms) and then when she is a quivering mess lube her up and fuck her arse - while she has a vibe trapped on her clit beneath her. Unfortunately you can’t just spring all of that on someone IRL so I guess it will never happen.
Another fantasy I have (might possibly get past her vetting) is her under my glass desk (in our home office) blowing me while I watch porn on my laptop. Dirty filthy porn, with the sound up. It’ll probably end up with me jerking off and finishing in her mouth or on her face. Pop psychologists might say I want her to submit to my sexual desires:allowing me to climax for my own sexual pleasure - with no expectation of reciprocation for/by her.
Name the fictional being or species you’d most like to have an encounter with:
~ Is it weird that I can’t think of one for me but can for my wife? Watching her getting fucked by an octopus would be pretty hot, if it’s anything like any of that tentacle sex anime the Japanese are so fond of.
Coincidentally I have imagined a future where we’re all fucking sex robots instead of people, and the sexbots wouldn’t necessarily be humanlike objects. You’d be fucking the pussy and grabbing the ass while you humped her, but the butt would be like giant boobs so you could play with nipples and squeeze tits while you pounded her.
Knowing men, those sexbots would probably evolve into a giant bean bag with a tight wet vibrating hole you could just stick your dick in. You’d lie there and the bot would do all the work. You wouldn’t even have to get up or roll over to go to sleep afterwards!
Anal sex - Meh or Yay?
~ Yay! In theory at least. I like the idea of it and really want to ‘master’ it but sometimes, of the few times we’ve tried it, I haven’t been able to climax. There’s too much baggage associated with it. When your wife has for 20+ years said “it’s an exit, not an entry” but then will drunkenly allow you to fuck her butt after reading a bunch of dirty stories that include anal… well, don’t let self doubt hit you halfway through the taboo deed.
Regular readers of my blog know I often overanalyze the sex I’m having - as I’m having it! Not a good idea!!
Sex needn’t always be serious - do you have a funny moment to share?
~ One time I was having sex with a woman who I thought had a really huge rack. I’d been chatting her up at a night club and got her home at about 4am. We were quite tipsy because she had loads of money (from some work compensation payment she’d received for a workplace accident) we’d been buying the top shelf drinks all night. When she got naked I realised she didn’t have big boobs - she had a rib cage that protruded six inches due to her workplace accident! WTF?! That’s why her boobs stuck out!! Being a dude I thought ‘alrighty then’ and continued as normal. It was good sex, albeit in a dark room!
There was also an incident with a stripper when I got a lapdance in a private room in a San Francisco stripclub. That was pretty funny...
Sexting - love it or hate it?
~ I love it but my wife hates it. She just can’t do it, not with me at least, seems she just can’t cope with it. I’ve tried it a few times but she just doesn’t know how to respond. If I ask what she’s wearing she’ll reply literally, “I’m wearing a pinstripe pantsuit, why?”
Which mainstream film depicts your favourite erotic scene?
~ Hmmmm, (thinks) I’m a dude, we don’t really cling to that sort of stuff. Which is not to say I don’t enjoy a hot love scene in a mainstream movie. Or TV. I used to find ‘Masters of Sex’ on Showtime particularly erotic. Some scenes were hot AF.
Do you watch porn?
~ Sometimes, but not often. With a teenage daughter in the house I rarely get to watch since I need the audio as well as the video. Silent porn doesn’t work for me. So more often that not I read hot stories on Literotica or Adult Read. Whether watching or reading porn, it’s always done as ‘foreplay’ to solo masturbation.
Nominate your favourite adult film:
~ I can’t think of one specifically, especially since this century I usually watch free clips (5-15 minutes) on PornHub or similar. Back in the 90s (when porn was still on VHS tapes, not DVD’s) I watched a lot of (director) Andrew Blake’s stuff. It had high production values, beautiful women, and lot’s of stylized fetishwear (ie women in beautiful latex rubber, or leather, and usually in mesh or fishnet stockings or bodysuits. (Imagery which has shaped my Instagram posts).
Before you go, please tell us 1 adult blog (aside from yours) which we must add to our reading list:
May More’s If Sex Matters. There are plenty of great sex blogs out there but I’m biased towards May’s because she might be my muse, but is definitely my "Internet Crush!" Her posts are frank, honest and open. Better yet her Man takes fantastic pictures of her, with which she illustrates her blog. I’ve watched her and her blog evolve, she seems truly to care about herself and her readers. She gives me great feedback on my blog, always commenting either publicly or privately.
I don’t publish real pictures of myself because I’ve learnt women respond better when my words allow them to create an image of me in their mind - in which I'm sexier /more handsome than IRL. Besides, I am old, fat, and ugly -with a tiny penis- so why would I reveal that?
Words are very powerful - right now some of your readers are imagining me as old fat and ugly, others are asking “How small can his penis be?”
Thank you so much Nero for sharing your more ‘private’ side with me and my Dark Darlings!
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